Dysfunction Junction – Incorrect/Negative Perceptions or Assumptions

I realize some of these things may not apply to you. If so, fantastic! You may, however, know someone who this does apply to and can consider sending them a link to this.

We all have negative or incorrect perceptions whether we think we do or not. Some things to consider are:

  • How the other person grew up.
  • What their parents or their life was like.
  • Did they have siblings or are they an only child?
  • What difficulties or obstacles have they had to overcome?

Some potential misconceptions: (We’ll use the names Drew and Jane for narrative’s sake.)

Drew is an only child, so he must be spoiled.

  • Not necessarily. He could have been overprotected by his parents. Sometimes parents will do that because they fear losing their one (and only) child. Always remember that the only child is the ‘baby’ (youngest), the oldest, and the one in the middle! They had no siblings to learn from.

Drew has siblings; he’s lucky.

  • Maybe he’s lucky, maybe not. Drew may not have siblings he’s fond of, that are fond of him, or who treat him well. Some siblings may not even speak to each other. There’s a lot to think about.

Jane has dyslexia (a learning disability) or stutters, has autism, ADHD, ADD (insert condition here), therefore she’s (insert assumption here).

Recommendation: Learn about the condition or situation. Try to understand and be compassionate. If circumstances were different, that could have been you!

Copyright © 2015 by Theresa M. Williams

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Entombment of Unemployment

At one time or another, most of us have suffered the entombment of unemployment. Our reactions can vary from anxiety, betrayal, embarrassment, fear, grief, feeling overwhelmed, poor self-esteem, self-consciousness, vulnerability, and even anger. We long to feel valued, loved, and relevant.

In Romans 5:7-8 (NRSV), Christ assures us that we ARE relevant, valued and loved by Him:

Indeed, rarely will anyone die for a righteous person—though perhaps for a good person someone might actually dare to die. But God proves his love for us in that while we still were sinners Christ died for us.

It’s very tempting to lose heart during our search for employment.  But we are assured concerning God’s presence and His plans for us:

Isaiah 41:10 (NRSV)

do not fear, for I am with you, do not be afraid, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my victorious right hand.

Jeremiah 29:11

For surely I know the plans I have for you, says the Lord, plans for your welfare and not for harm, to give you a future with hope.

 

Be of good courage. Just as Jesus rose from the dead, He will raise us up out of the tomb of our unemployment!

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What is Entombing Me?

I was part of a group meditation a few years ago where we were asked to close our eyes and imagine we were Lazarus, how the tomb felt, the cold and damp, how we felt emotionally. We meditated on this for a few minutes. Then, we imagined Jesus calling our name to come out of the tomb. It was very a powerful experience.

Today is Holy Saturday. Jesus is in the tomb. The Father, as we know, will call Jesus forth from His tomb early in the morning. New Song has a tune called “Arise My Love.” You can Google “Arise My Love by New Song lyrics” to read it in its entirety. The song describes several things: Hell would like us simply to forget Jesus, “He’s dead,” the soldiers’ fright from the resurrection event, the Father calling Jesus out of the tomb by saying “Arise My Love,” how Jesus no longer has to suffer, the grave could no longer hold the King. (Of course, we weren’t there; we don’t know how Jesus was actually resurrected, but it’s something to think about.)

As we meditate on either of the tomb examples above, we might ask ourselves: What is entombing me? Is it worry, facing a tough decision or issue, employment issues, family troubles, sickness, burnout, fatigue, doubt, sadness, depression? I could go on and on.

What does this ‘tomb’ feel like in light of the difficulty we are facing? Is it narrow and constricting (by choking our zest for life)? Is it scary? Is it aggravating as we try to get out of the tomb (the situation)?

Now that you have identified your ‘tomb,’ imagine Jesus calling you forth from that tomb:

“(insert name), come forth from your tomb! Don’t be afraid. Trust in Me. Behold, I will make all things new.”

Happy Easter everyone!

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