Forms of personal entombment:
Inferiority complex/poor self-esteem
– Are you addicted to others’ approval?
– God doesn’t make junk; you are not ‘junk.’
Have you ever been abused in any way (spiritually/emotionally/psychologically, physically or sexually)?
Had a traumatic experience, i.e. accident or another event?
Is there depression or addiction in your history?
These are just a few. The list is extensive.
I would suggest getting yourself a notebook/journal and keep a record of your thoughts, feelings, and related events. For those of you not familiar, this process is called journaling. (You don’t have to be a good writer. This would be just for your eyes.)
In your journal, start to record the situations and feelings where you feel entombed or trapped.
Next, reflect on the circumstances that are involved. What memories do you have where you felt that way? (Memories can be powerful, whether they are positive or negative.) Do you remember something from childhood when you first felt that way?
Journaling is a valuable tool to help you see if there is a particular ‘theme’ or pattern. Doing this should help clarify what may be going on and bring things into better focus. Sometimes just being aware how you react or feel when certain things happen can be beneficial. For example, I have a friend who hates raised voices. It makes him cringe. When he reflected upon it, he realized that this stems from his parents arguing and his mother throwing light bulbs when he was a child. He wanted to stay out of the way, to feel ‘safe.’ Knowing the source of this reaction has helped him be more aware of why he reacts that way. I encourage you to give journaling a try.
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